I just found an email program called Mailbird. It's not free but it does have a free 3 day trial. The business version is a one time fee of $99. Their way of getting residuals is charging $20/yr for updates... fair enough. I had all three of my email accts up and running in less than 15 minutes. Compare that to the time I've fought with Outlook just trying to get my 365 acct running, which is why I started searching for a solution other than GMail. So far in day two of testing, I'm impressed. All accounts set up...check, simple and clean interface... check, a SYNC button to force a check on the email server... check, Emails getting flagged as read on the email servers after reading them in client...check, customizable...check. Every single item that I've been submitting feedback for, just works in this 3rd party solution
Unless something goes sideways with this software before my trial is up, it looks like I've found my new email client. It's infuriating to think about the 100s of HOURS I've spent submitting feedback, and requests, and searching for solutions for whatever Microsoft was pushing as a stable email client since 2015! It has been 8 years of frustration when I get NO resolution, or just stupid responses.
I will HAPPILY pay $99 for Mailbird so I NEVER have to submit feedback to MS about email, ever again! It looks as though I have found peace in my email world once and for all, and like so many other software solutions, it is not with Microsoft. I have already uninstalled outlook and windows mail from my PCs... that was actually a great feeling! Thank you to all who tried to help with constructive replies.