Hello
Two separate issues here.
You actually want to correct the birthday year before you remove the child member from family.
Go to https://account.live.com/mykids.aspx sign in with the organizer account, you should see your "child" account listed. Click on "Edit this child's personal info" And it will let you update the date of birth for this child user.
After that, you can try to remove consent. If the remove consent option is not available, Try this link https://account.live.com/unmanagekid.aspx It might still load the same blank page, but then click on View your Family Settings, and then three dots > manage consent, it might eventually load.. Try a few times. This issue happened not too long ago and it was server side glitch, If it still doesn't load, I am afraid you would have to wait til Microsoft fixes this on their end.