Cracked it sunshine!!!
my hard drive finally failed, signs were there for a few months.
Changed 3 Tb Seagate 3.5 Sata for a 4Tb Samsung SSD, created USB Windows installer on lappy and started afresh.
nice new copy of windows, now fully up to date!
currently re-installing all the peripherals with loud Janes addiction, beer and smokes!
nothing lost thanks to NAS back ups.
Computer has a new lease of life, fast as ****!!!
Turns out that the issue with my failing hard drive was preventing my update but wasn't flagged or reported.
I am kinda guessing here, but i had tried everything through this thread and nothing worked.
If this is the case and the update failed due to hard disk issues, why isn't there an error code to reflect hardware issues??
I hope this can help someone else through the troubled update, maybe you should run a disk scan just in case (didn't help me tho, all came back good, then it died.....the signs were there........you know when you know....)
Oh well, onto Red Hot Chilli's and Bourbon N dry now. The sense of relief is intoxicating!