in much the same way as rlee17 stated i was able to 'fix' the problem with the vnc method. I was not able to choose my native resolution of 1900x1200 via windows nor was i able to do it via nvidia display panel, but i was able to force a 1900x1080 resolution which makes things very tolerable.
On at least one occasion however the default resolution of 1024x768 somehow took over, and i had to use the vnc connection to force the resolution again. I do not know what caused this to happen but be aware that it might. Still a much less annoying situation exists now.
When a monitor (possibly DVI only) 'goes away', either by switching away on a KVM, or turning your monitor off, Win7 freaks out and forces the video resolution to some default. How WIN7 determines what this default resolution will be i do not know, but if we had a reliable method via reg hack or user option, to set this default resolution to what we want it to be, it seems this would do the trick for the majority of users with the issue. This is what we are doing or trying to do with the vnc method, but it is cluncky, problematic, and unreliable.
Come on MS, give us some help here. TIA!