While yea it's annoying to have to relearn something having the most commonly used items closer to your cursor is quite literally just more efficient. If we had the icons from the get-go then you would be making the opposite argument of "why did they remove the buttons and add a long menu." As soon as you get used to it which I believe you can since you're a big girl you'll understand that it's a fair bit faster. I've never seen so many people so upset that something was improved upon like is it actually that hard to remember what a pair of scissors mean? Microsoft made a number of **** with windows 11 but this just seems like pure incompetence on the consumer side.
p.s windows 11 works and feels nothing like a mac. Spend a day using mac os and realize you have to spend 20 dollars for an app that gives you the ability to drag split screen and you'll realize quickly. Not to mention it doesn't even auto-resize the window you have to do that yourself.