I seriously agree with you sir, i have had this issue for a long time. Even now I have not solved this issue, and i was starting to think it was my headsets problem after all, until I saw you write a complaint that almost exactly matched my problem too!
I tried to disable handsfree, (I use boat Rockerz 400) and just use stereo with handsfree microphone. Just like you, it did not work. If by any chance you manage to fix this issue, please do post it here...I really am tired of using my laptops microphone.
Right now, It has gotten worse, When I try to use my headphones mic with handsfree audio(I decided I should put up with sucky audio), and it doesn't work at all.....