For installing the latest CU try this:
Install this SSU: http://catalog.update.microsoft.com/v7/site/Search.aspx?q=KB4541338
Then install the CU: http://catalog.update.microsoft.com/v7/site/Search.aspx?q=KB4551762
As for upgrading to Version 1909, have you tried via the ISO? Just download the ISO file, mount it in Windows and run setup.exe to change from version 1903 to 1909. Because this is a cosmetic change to the Windows version number, it is not a full OS upgrade, but it does enable some things. This will also auto-install the latest Cumulative Update.