I had the one policy setting for a good number of years. It no longer seems to work. My 1909 system restarted last night.. but there are other registry/policy settings related to win updates that might still work... I'm holding off on disabling windows update service and the musnotification setting for now...
"AUOptions" set to "2" might do it... I'm going with that for now... under:
Computer\HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\SOFTWARE\Policies\Microsoft\Windows\WindowsUpdate\AU
UPDATE FEB 29: This setting (AUOptions) works fine for me. I am simply notified when updates are available. All I have to do is wait until I am ready to download and apply the updates and reboot my system. If I don't download the updates, no automated reboot will occur. You simply don't download the updates until you are ready.