Decided to give it one LAST try before sending this chip back to the reseller. I noticed that there is a product that came out this year called the Killer Wireless-AC 1550, which uses the same intel 9260 (with added proprietary stuff i suppose). Went to
their support/drivers page and downloaded the following:
Killer Drivers Installation 64bit - version 1.6.2134 wit release date 2018-06-05 (driver only installation)
Killer INF Package - version N/A, release date 2018-06-04 (driver info package for device manager installation
Steps:
Shut down
disconnect power
Uninstall the PCE-AC88 from machine
reconnect power
Boot up
Run "killerdrivers_1.6.2134_x64" (from the killer drivers installation 64bit)
msconfig --> safe boot (minimal)
shut down
disconnect power
install 9260 (chip only, didn't add antennas because wanted easier installation)
reconnect power
boot into safe mode
device manager -->network adapters - I see Intel Wireless-AC9260 adapter is there, already installed because i ran the killer drivers package. version of driver is 20.60.1.1, which is newer than the most recent driver available from intel's support/downloads
pages.
msconfig --> uncheck safe boot (minimal) so i can boot into windows normally
restart
No BSOD on login
device manager-->network adapters- I still see intel wireless-ac9260, and no weird symbols over the icon, and status says "this device is working properly
taskbar shows wifi symbol with no reception and no available networks; remember i did not install the antenna wires or antennas, so perhaps normal.
shut down
disconnect power
remove 9260
install antenna pigtail wires
install 9260
screw on antennas to end of pigtail wires
reconnect power
boot into windows
NO BSOD, WIFI shows SSIDs!!!
connected to my router's SSID over AC
4ms, 300-ish down, 300-ish up using speedtest.net
i couldn't break 4ms with the 9260, whereas the asus pce-ac88 had 3ms with similar up and down. asus was consistent 100% of tests with 3ms ping, and the 9260 was 4ms 95% of my test, with one at 14ms, and down of 190 and up of 50.. seems abnormal.
Thanks for the encouragement guys. I hope this helps anyone else trying to install this 9260 adapter!