Hi LucyBake you cannot unistall Defender Programe coz this is the Windows built-in programme i think you have disabled it. To enable go to run (Win + R) and type (msconfig) then click OK select the services tab scroll down and find Windows defender in the list.
Is there a check in box? If no, select it click on OK close out and restart the computer. If yes, it is OK, go to Run and type (SERVICES.MSC) click OK and locate for Windows Defender Service right click on it select properties select automatically under startup type then click OK, then restart your PC.
Please perform all steps with adminisrator login. and please let me know the result.
Thanks