***** SOLVED *****
Follow the instructions to start and stop the service
Restart the Apple Mobile Device Service (AMDS)
- Close iTunes and disconnect the iPhone, ipad, or iPod touch.
- Click the Windows Start button.
- In the Start Search field type.
- In the Programs section of the search results, Click "Services".
- Select Apple Mobile Device and click Stop the service as shown below.
- After the service has stopped, clickStart the service.
- After the Apple Mobile Device service has started again, open iTunes and connect the device.
THAN
DRUM ROLL
You must use a real Apple Cable not a fake one, that solved the problem! If you are using an aftermarket cable somehow itunes knows and won't connect the phone.
There you have it!