Hey thanks bigoldcars. You cheered me up. I found myself kinda in the eye of somebody's storm a while back.
But it is supremely frustrating.
I since learned that in Task manager you can just right click Windows Explorer and choose "restart", instead of ending the task and then typing "explorer.exe" into File/Run. That saves some steps on my first post.
Doug Alton (jan 18) has addressed a particular problem with MKV files:
"in the case of the MKV files with the length and frame information missing, they remain locked even after restarting Explorer {...} simply because the file is somewhat corrupt."
His no-reboot solution for corrupt MKVs must I think be applicable to every other stubborn file type:
Doug Alton replied on Jan 17
"I have the same problem and I been using the same method as Rick to delete the files. However, I found that you don't need to reboot. Simply run 'cmd' to get a DOS box, kill Explorer.exe from Task manager, delete the file using DOS, and then restart explorer.exe."
Thanks again!