Looking back over FOUR YEARS of discussion of this problem, one might say that WE REALLY ARE A COMMUNITY! of WLM users thwarted by its mechanism, and usually not helped by the "experts".
I have stopped using WLMail, and adopted Mozilla's thunderbird instead, but I cannot leave the Community following this thread , because I sill have not succeeded in stopping mails about it! Happy Christtmas to your Outbox !