Hi Steele823,
Before proceeding with the troubleshooting, I’d suggest you to check for any settings, if any, within the iPhone (you may try and compare the settings with your wife’s iPhone, if need be) and check if you’ve accidentally missed out anything.
Here’s an Apple KB article that may just have the fix for the issue you’re facing:
iPhone or iPod is not recognized properly by computer when USB drivers are not installed properly or are out of date
http://support.apple.com/kb/TS1538
Follow the troubleshooting steps mentioned in the above article, in the order and check if your issue gets fixed.
If the steps mentioned in the above article do not fix the issue, I’d suggest you to contact Apple Support:
Apple – Support – iPod – iTunes
http://www.apple.com/support/ipod/
Hope this helps.
Gokul - Microsoft Support
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