I have a Surface Laptop 4 and just bought the Surface Dock 2. And to be honest this has been a game changer for me. With these two items I have finally found my true calling in life. For all those struggling here I will soon be starting a certification program called 'how to configure your surface / dock / monitor combination and still not figure it out'. First 100 sign ups will also get a free cable or converter or adapter considering the number I've cables I've amassed during this period.
Honestly Microsoft - If you keep ignoring the community I'm going to move back to Apple. I honestly fell in love with your products several years ago and converted my entire family to the surface series (3 surface books, 2 surface laptops). The Surface Docks are an integral part of your offering and even more so after the pandemic with increasing users working from home. Please make this truly 'plug and play', not plug & pay & pay-some-more & maybe-play.
Sorry for the rant for those facing the same problem :(.